questions to ask before marriage

Questions to Ask Before Marriage

When it is the love marriage we are talking about, then there is nothing to worry. No interrogation needs to take place since you already know each other. But when it is about an arranged marriage, you need to be sure of the other person you are going to marry. Hence, you ought to be cautions with the questions to ask before marriage.

Why to ask?

Arranged marriage is a big leap of faith that people take. The other person might or might not share the same interests and thinking as of you. So it is better to be aware of this fact before marriage than suffering later. This will also give you a chance to think wisely and choose the other person when you know what his lifestyle is about.

Questions to ask before marriage

In this article, our main focus would be those questions only, which you can ask if you are visiting your prospective bride or groom before marriage. Here is a wide list of questions to ask before marriage, divided into different segments to choose from.

Each person has his own set of interests. And you might not know which one of these categories will be greatly entertained by that person. So take your time, explore each category with your prospective life partner, and see where you both have common interests.

About his/her family

  1. How many members are there in your family?
  2. What do they do?
  3. Where do they hail from?
  4. What do they expect from a son/daughter-in-law?
  5. Do they believe in joint family or nuclear ones?
  6. Do your parents believe in love marriages more or arranged?
  7. How did your parents show their love to you while you were growing up?
  8. How do your parents make you happy when you become sad?
  9. What responsibilities do your mother and father share?
  10. What responsibilities are separately assigned to your mom and dad?
  11. Who is the decision making head in your family?
  12. Tell me about your siblings.
  13. Do your parents believe in any superstitions?
  14. Your parents believe in what more, traditional wear or modern wear?
  15. Do your parents meet their relatives often?
  16. How often will the bride of your family be allowed to meet her parents?
  17. How does your family take care of its health?
  18. How does your family manage expenses?
  19. Who controls the money flow in your family?
  20. How is/was the relation of your mother with her mother-in-law?
  21. What does your family expect from me?
  22. Do I have to change certain habits of mine to adjust with your family?
  23. How often does your parents fight?
  24. Will they pester us to have children soon?
  25. What values do you think your mother father have imparted in you ideally?
  26. Which values from your parents marriage would you want to bring in ours?
  27. What do you like the most about your family?
  28. What do you hate the most about your family?
  29. Does your family has any medical history?
  30. Does anyone in your family has any criminal record?
  31. How will your family be involved in our married life?

will your family be involved in our married life

About him/her

  1. Where have you been brought up?
  2. What makes you unique?
  3. On which habits do you lose temper easily?
  4. What makes you smile easily?
  5. What are the 3 most strong beliefs you have?
  6. Do you believe in superstitions? Name any few you believe in.
  7. What is your idea of ideal dress for men and women?
  8. What is your stress buster?
  9. Do you have any kind of insecurities?
  10. Do you usually have trust issues?
  11. Do you believe in equality or men above women or vice versa?
  12. What responsibilities are you willing to share with me if we get married?
  13. How will we divide the household chores amongst us?
  14. What is your idea of family planning?
  15. How many children do you wish to have?
  16. If we had a fight ever, what steps will you take to resolve it?
  17. What steps do you expect me to take if we fight?
  18. If me and your parents had a fight, how will you work on resolving that?
  19. Whom are you more close to? Your mother or your father?
  20. Do you ever seek alone time? When?
  21. Do you love pets and animals?
  22. Are you a vegan or non vegan?
  23. Who are more important to you, friends or family?
  24. With whom you love to spend more time, friends or family?
  25. If you could ask me any 3 wishes to fulfill blindly, what would they be?
  26. Do you like girls who wear heavy makeup in regular days as well?
  27. What do you like more, traditional or western wear?
  28. Do you love spending time with your relatives?
  29. Do you believe in taking loans?
  30. How often do you take debts from your friends?
  31. Have you ever faced conflicting situation in your life? How did you handle it?
  32. Did you have any past affair? How many?
  33. What went wrong in your previous relations?
  34. Did you learn anything from your past relations?
  35. Are you good at apologizing?
  36. Do you listen to others before making decisions?
  37. Are you considerate of the thoughts and feelings of others?
  38. What are your financial goals in life?
  39. How will you make time for me if you are very busy?
  40. What matters more to you? Physical appearance or internal?
  41. What thing can you never give up even if it costs you a lot?
  42. Do you think we both are compatible with each other?
  43. Have you ever cheated someone, or been cheated upon?
  44. Do you often get aggressive and fight?
  45. Do you get jealous and possessive easily?
  46. Will you allow if I want to spend a night out with my friends?
  47. What is your definition of love?

what is your definition of love

About his/her Interests

  1. What are your hobbies?
  2. What are your deepest desires?
  3. Do you love traveling often?
  4. Are you more of a beach person or a hills person?
  5. What is your favorite holiday destination?
  6. How often you love to travel?
  7. What is your favorite color?
  8. Are you a tea lover or coffee?
  9. Do you drink or smoke?
  10. What is your idea about fitness?
  11. Are you a gym person?
  12. Do you like soft music or loud?
  13. What kind of house do you wish to have in near future?
  14. What kind of car do you wish to have and dream for?
  15. Who is your favorite singer/actor/actress/movie, etc.?
  16. Should a house be full of furniture and artifacts or more empty?
  17. What do you like more, books or movies?
  18. How do you spend your free time?
  19. How do you take care of your mental health?
  20. Do you like PDA?
  21. Do you think romance should be limited to bedroom only?
  22. How do you usually spend your weekends?